Wednesday, March 26, 2014

Dear Butterbean

Last week, when I announced that "Dear Butterbean" would be a regular feature on the blog, we were absolutely flooded with questions. Thanks to all who contributed!   We're looking forward to tackling your cat's questions, and the topics you inquired about.

We did get a few medical questions in the batch, and because we're not medical experts, and would hate to give any wrong information, we won't be able to answer those. Please give your vet a call for any medical advice!

But any other cat-related topics, we're willing tackle those, so feel free to email us.


Dear Butterbean, 

 I'm a playful 9-month-old Siamese kitten and I love to wrestle! When I was a baby at my foster home, I used to wrestle with my brother and sister all the time and it was so much fun! They each went to their own forever homes, though, and my human friend doesn't enjoy play-fighting nearly as much. When I grab her hand and throw it to the ground or give it a few friendly bites or kicks, she always stops playing with me. I never bite or scratch because I'm angry or to be mean... I just want to play! It's so disappointing. 

How can I have my fun and still make my human friend happy? 

Kittens Just Want to Have Fun (and Bite)

Dear Kittens,

I was a foster kitten too, and lost my only sibling when were barely two weeks old. Because I didn't have a sparing partner during those formative months, I didn't learn "appropriate play".   I became a bit bitey and scratchy as a teen, so I understand where you're coming from. 

 As a kitten, your nibbles and scratches don't do too much damage, but as you become bigger and stronger, you can seriously hurt your human friends, and I know you don't want to do that.

You need a little training, and so does your human. 

For your human, I suggest that they always keep a stuffed animal or a soft toy between their hand and your teeth and claws. They should never let you wrestle with their hands.  It's going to take some time and discipline to get used to this, but like you, they must learn that hands are not toys. 

If by chance you do sink a toenail or tooth into their hand, they should always holler to acknowledge it was painful, and immediately end the play session.  I know this is hard for you, but this will help set boundaries and teach you what appropriate play is all about. 

You're still young, so there's plenty of time to change your ways.  Good luck to you and your human! 



  1. i love Dear Butterbean!!! thank you for starting this series! (i never thought about the stuffed animal, so i learned something new today!

  2. Oh Charlene! You are so wise! I must ask my kitties if they have a question for you. I will encourage them to write to you!

  3. The stuffed animal is such a good idea!

  4. Brains AND Beauty! Bean, you have it all!

  5. zoubi and india's momMarch 26, 2014 at 1:22 PM

    Such great advice! Sweet India pushed on my leg to get my attention when she wanted to play- but sometimes her claws would poke my skin and I would yelp. It took a while, but now she is very tender with those paws! So that really works! She also knows that yelping is followed by claw trimming. :-)

  6. Charlene is not only wise and sensible, but she has truly spectacular whiskers!

  7. Great advice Charlene, you're so wise!!



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